Friday, July 30, 2010

Fatine wins asylum, but life's not all rosy for both of them

>She called family in Malaysia to tell them the news but received no reaction from them.

>She was "treated badly and humiliated" by staff at the visa processing centre.

>He had to leave his job as a school caretaker and transferred to another school.

>She said: I know it may be a bit difficult to gain employment but I will try my best


So life's not all that rosy even if both Fatine and Ian Young has got her visa application approved. What will happen next if both of them are out of jobs? 

I am reproducing this news-article from a UK website, and not add or comment on it anymore.

Malaysian trans woman wins asylum in UK

Ian and Fatine Young have been told Fatine may stay in the UK
Ian and Fatine Young have been told Fatine may stay in the UK

A Malaysian trans woman who had a civil partnership with a British man has won her fight to stay in the UK.

Fatine Young, 36, who was born male, feared she would be arrested and jailed if returned to her home country, which would consider her relationship to be homosexual.

She met 30-year-old Ian Young in 2006 while he was working in Kuala Lumpur and entered Britain on a six-month tourist visa to live with him in December 2008.

The couple tied the knot in a civil partnership service in the UK in June 2009 after seeking permission from the Home Office. They now live together in Sponden, Derby.

Last month, Mrs Young won her claim for asylum.

She told LGBT Asylum News: "After nearly a year struggling I am so relieved that the Home Office has approved my asylum claim, knowing that I am safe from the prosecution back home. My plight, known through the media in the UK, has touched a nerve amongst the Muslim community in Malaysia.

"Honestly, I'm not angry at the UK government for [repeatedly] rejecting my application, I'm just confused and scared. I don't know what have I done wrong as I know I follow everything by the book. I called my family in Malaysia to tell them the news but received no reaction from them. Ian's family and friends are happy that I got to stay here in UK."

Mrs Young has also claimed she was "treated badly and humiliated" by staff at the visa processing centre because her appearance does not match the gender stated in her passport.

Mr and Mrs Young say that while their family and friends have accepted their relationship, he had to leave his job as a school caretaker because parents claimed to be "uncomfortable" about their relationship.

Mr Young was transferred to another school, while his wife hopes to find work in the UK.

She said: "As soon as I've got my paperwork from Home Office, I will look for work. I know it may be a bit difficult to gain employment but I will try my best, I want to contribute something back to the government."

You can read the comments to this news-report here

Friday, July 23, 2010

Fatine Young REVISITED

It's been a while since we've heard of the Malaysian transsexual, Fatine Young and her struggle with the UK authorities to get a visa or permanent stay with her 'husband' Ian James Young there.

My hits to this blog's statistics report today alerted me that many Fatine Young's fan were searching like crazy on the latest news about Fatine.

Here are some updates.

The couples' Facebook Group: Right to STAY TOGETHER was created sometime in September 2009 to gather support from friends and families to help in one way or another by pressuring the UK government and the relevant authorities so that Fatine can be assured of a visa to stay in the UK, either temporary or for good.

Incidentally, while I was doing my daily newspaper archiving, I found this news on page 2 of today's Kosmo!

A check on the couples' Facebook Group: Right to STAY TOGETHER today has this to offer: at 10.02pm on Wednesday, 21 July 2010, Fatine updated the Facebook wall with a status:

alhamdullilah... the fight is over. i've win my case. i can stay in uk..

And as of this afternoon, 23 July, only ten comments were seen on the status, most of which were congratulatory messages with Fatine herself replying to two, one of which was:  

ye nok skrng dah boleh cari kerja...and open a new chapter in my life. 

A simple search on Yahoo! with the words 'Fatine Young can stay in UK' and 'Fatine Young wins stay in UK' did not find any related news.

Maybe it's too soon. Let's wait another day or two before we can get any official news direct from a UK newsportal or website.



Thursday, July 22, 2010

When men fall in love with another, it is not 'cheating' - Suzana Ghazali

If you think all women think the same way like their peers, then you are wrong. This woman consultant psychologist does not ‘genderalise’ all women and men as the same.

Suzana Ghazali, normally seen on Astro TV as a guest who speaks about family and relationships, claims herself (or at least the newspaper where she usually writes to, refers her as) a perunding psikologi keluarga ~ family consultant psychologist, as displayed below her name in her column in Kosmo!.

She also writes for Majalah Mingguan Wanita and has several blogs, one of which is Bina Bahagia Bersama Suzana Ghazali

Now how did she get to use those credentials or titles ~ family consultant psychologist and syariah lawyer? What qualification does she have apart from having a Syariah Law Degree from UM.

In one website MDolUnited: it says apart from the Syariah Law degree, Suzana also holds a masters degree in Counseling Psychology ~ Sarjana Psikologi (Kaunseling)from UKM (National University of Malaysia).

Now does that qualify her to be a consultant psychologist or can she claim herself to be an expert in family psychology?

In reference to a page in a website - which says: Psychologists receive graduate training in psychology and pursue either a Ph.D or Psy.D in clinical or counseling psychology, which typically take five to seven years to complete. The title of "psychologist" can only be used by an individual who has completed the above education, training, and state licensure (applies in the US).

For e.g. if you look at the credentials of a counseling resource column/blog/website: Ask The Psychologist and Welcome to the Ask The Psychologist, the consultant psychologist resource personnel are clinical psychologists with a qualification of either a PhD or a PsyD.

Now at this juncture, you readers would want to ask, why all of a sudden am I wired about wanting to know if she is qualified or not? She has a graduate degree in Counseling Psychology, is that not good enough to be a family consultant psychologist?

Okay, maybe in Malaysia we do recognize that, as she also has lots of experience handling cases of the kind when she was a syariah lawyer.

Now here comes the catch ~ if you consider Suzana Ghazali, the newspaper/magazine columnist, a counselor and motivator, a TV personality as an expert in her work and causes, then you can approve (or recognize) that anything that comes out from her mouth (or her written statement) as valid and is reflective/represents what most women in this country thinks about family relationship and the man-woman correlation as true, then read on.

This is what she has written in her latest column in Kosmo! 16.07.2010
(click pic above to read the whole article)

Sejauh mana curangnya pasangan? Sekadar berkawan? Bercinta? Atau dah bersama di tempat tidur? Bagi suami/lelaki, kalau sekadar berkawan atau bercinta; bagi saya masih belum boleh dikatakan curang.

Berbeza dengan isteri/wanita; syarak mengharamkan isteri menyimpan rasa suka apatah lagi rasa cinta kepada lelaki selain suami. Jika isteri bercinta dengan lelaki lain; isteri ini boleh dikategorikan sebagai curang; tak kira apa pun sebabnya termasuk kegagalan suami menunaikan tanggungjawab.

My simple translation: How (or to what extent) do you consider your partner has cheated on you? Is it just befriending another or being in love? Does your partner make love in bed with another person? For a man/husband, if he is just befriending or is in love with someone else, THEN TO ME IT IS NOT CHEATING (
committing infidelity).

This is different with a wife/woman; Islamic law (syarak) prohibits a woman to have any feelings towards another man, apart from her husband. If a wife falls in love with another man; she is considered (or can be categorized as) cheating (committing
infidelity); without any excuse, regardless of whether her husband had neglected his duties (on her).

Feminists reading this cue might want to go to town brandishing their guns blazing with fiery words found inside or outside the lexicon, if the statement was uttered by a man (personality).

Now all of a sudden, a woman family consultant psychologist says it is not (considered cheating), if a man/husband does that as compared with the same if done by a woman/wife.

Now you people reading this are probably thinking that I am goading and inviting you to come out and defend her. Yes, in a way, if you think she has a position to defend the statement. Naturally, as a man, I say this is something we have to shout about!

But any right thinking person (regardless of gender) would say that this statement is unfair, discriminative and distasteful especially with respect to women? And that the point she raised is irreverent, utterly insensitive or she probably does not have clue what she is talking (or writing) about.

But quite the opposite, maybe she does have a reason. She is talking or referring to syariah law, where men are allowed to remarry another, even if the wife is still around and well (not sick).

But does the law apply (in this case) if the actions of men/husbands (when they fall in love with another) are made known (intentionally or otherwise) to their wives and that it hurts their feeling like crazy?

Are matters of the heart not valid in Islam?

These are the contemporary questions that should be answered well with regards to Islamic teachings. But the answers I believe can only be found deep inside the hearts of modern Islamic scholars and writers.

Allah knows best.

Monday, July 19, 2010

New trend in Malaysian movies...Let's Get Nekkid...!

Why do people expose themselves indecently to others in public? Is it just for fun or is it a behavioral disorder?

Indecent exposure is the deliberate exposure by a person of a portion or portions of his or her own body under circumstances where such an exposure (like being naked in public) is likely to be seen as contrary to the local commonly accepted standards of decency.

In many parts of the world, exposing your private parts to the public may in fact be a violation of the law. A person, sound or otherwise, can be reprimanded and/or locked up for intentionally or arbitrarily exposing of his/her private parts.

In the mainly conservative Malaysia, off lately, there were many cases of indecent exposure by people who looks like they are happy to be naked in public.

Recently, a female executive was stunned when a man appeared next to her, unzipped his pants and flashed his private parts. Police later arrested a man believed to be responsible for the unusual behavior.

Read theStar news as reported by Harian Metro here.

Be that as it may, some of the people who committed these acts are actually mentally sound, though they may be a little bit overzealous about what they are doing.

Some of them are artistes and actors and most of them are well educated.

In Malaysia, the first nude movie scene was deliberated by Craig Fong (pic right) in The Spinning Gasing (2000). The original version of the film was however banned for screening in Malaysian theaters. After going through their scissors it was then approved by the Malaysian Censorship Board (LPF) and was released for public viewing on 18 October 2001. 25 scenes were deleted.

Then it was Izi Yahya (now deceased) who showed his butt in a rape scene in  the movie Embun (2002).

Early this month the mainstream media went gaga over another case of indecent exposure when Arja Lee admitted he had bath in the nude in Raja Azmi's new film ...Anu Dalam Botol.

<-----Click on pic to read Arja Lee's admission 

Anu Dalam Botol's director Khir Rahman later admitted that the scene was deleted even before it was sent to the censorship board for approval.

And before the dust even began to settle, a few days ago another newcomer Zul Sophia'an (Zul Handy Black) is joining the ranks of nude Malaysian actors with another show-my-butt-act in the movie Mantra.

In fact, Zul cheekily said that the supposed naked act was justified. Read here: Zul Perjelas Aksi Bogel Dalam Mantra.

Read also Zul's version of his story in Kosmo's Babak Zul Bogel Lulus  

Now why all of a sudden many male actors in this country want to display their anus (manhood) for the whole world to see?

As if the devastation that had befallen upon Ariel Peterpan from Indonesia's Peterporn infamy wasn't a good reminder for these actors not to create any scandal or controversies especially with regards to sex and sexuality.

And not to mention the much hype that was created when Faizal Tahir (the one in a million fame) ripped his shirt to bear his chest in a live concert telecast in 2008 (which ensued with a padan-muka-you ruling by the government to ban him from appearing on TV for three months). 

Well, let me try to give some answers (for) them, since I am a man too, though not as masculine or sophisticated as they are (or were).

For starters maybe it's because they think their looks, physique and ego are so great and their weenie so huge or well hung (like Ariel's 21cm) and their butts well-rounded that it renders them the justification for such blatant act.

In simple term, they are the exhibitionist, who just like to flaunt their sexual masculinity. This is not much different from the skinny women who flaunt their shapely bodies in either in public, on print media or the screen (some call it female sluttish).

No, I'm just exploring the extreme... but who knows, it could be true.

Secondly, it could be due to the lure of fame and fortune. And these factors proved too strong that a simple reason such as the need to follow the script of the movie is good enough for an actor to justify his actions even though he has to expose all.

Thirdly, most of the actors mentioned above are the fresh ones, and they would do all it takes to be chosen as actors as to most of them it is their dream to be famous and be seen on the silver screen. So, it's not just their fault. Blame it too on the script writers, directors and producers.

As we can see in the newspapers and national TV a few days ago, the public outrage on the matter has not yet diminished. Many, including the clerics and scholars have gone to town to blame the actors per se, and this is really unfair.

The real culprit I believe is those people who are selling their idea that anything controversial and scandalous can sell. And it is these people we should be lynching, if the idea of getting them off the streets is the ideal solution in the first place.

But if you think the solution to solve problems by blaming others is not a good idea, then our best bet is to start all over by teaching our children to behave well, whether we are in public view or otherwise.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Now we know what is so special about Ariel Peterporn

With these latest revelation on the Ariel (Peterpan) from the infamous Peterporn's case, everything seems to fall into place... or so it seems!

Read the forensics report here by clicking on the pic on the right --->.

Yes the report said Ariel has a penis with the length of 21cm. Go get a ruler if you don't know how long that is!

That my dear friends is certainly abnormal if you consider one internet survey here: Facts about penis size.

What more when a famous (or infamous rather) Japanese porn actress, Maria Ozawa gave a statement to the media on her willingness to act with Ariel in a movie. It was actually an offer to Ariel, for she knows what Ariel can or was willing to offer her in return.

Read the report on the offer by Maria Ozawa by clicking on pic below.

A gossip e-zine ( gave the obvious title on one of its postings : Maria Ozawa aka Miyabi ternyata sudah menonton video Ariel Peterpan. Meaning, maybe it's because she knows about the size of Ariel's manhood and she likes what she saw.

The e-zine has a report on Maria Ozawa's tweet which it said was found on the global microblogging site Twitter of one Okezone. Maria wrote : “everyone shout! About peterporn.. do you know about him?” as was found on Okezone's twitter account on Wednesday (16/6/2010).

On Friday, 11 June (sic), and after 2 days searching for it on the net, she wrote:“Guys, after 2 day search on the web, today I got the real video of PETERPON ?~?,”

She went on to write : “So many mentions asking me about peterporn, sorry I cant answer for that, because I have quote “don’t judge the book from the cover”. lol xD,” and this was found on her twitter status on 14 June 2010. She was said to have had a twitter account since 31 May 2010.

Read about how Maria was interested to act in a movie with Ariel in another e-zine detikHot in an article entitled Miyabi Tertarik Main Film Bareng Ariel. No it is not a typo error, bareng in Indonesia means 'bersama' or 'with', I suppose.

Maria Ozawa was a controversial figure in Indonesia due to her cancelled visitation to Jakarta on 14 October last year with plans to promote her act in an Indonesian movie titled "Menculik Miyabi".

Watch the movie trailer here.

The film however passed through the Film Censorship Board without any cuts. Despite initial threats of disruption from the Islamic Defenders Front (FPI), the premiere of the controversial film proceeded without incident.

The film tells the story of three college boys infatuated with the porn actress, but the movie itself portrays her as a regular person outside her acting job.

Meanwhile, the Indonesian police investigating on the Peterporn case is satisfied with the facts that can implicate Luna Maya with the confiscated and widely publicised pornography. The investigators said that a tattoo that is found on the left buttocks on one of the actress in the movie is similar to the one that Luna has.

Read the report by clicking on the pic on the right---->.


Friday, July 2, 2010

Can a female psychologist advocates men’s issues?

Do men (like women) have gender issues that is so alarming that it could be a cause for national concern or one that need to be laid bare for all and sundry to help them find a solution?

Ironically, in some countries yes, they do.

A female psychologist from Australia is advocating a greater respect and awareness for the development of men’s causes and concerns based on some of the same logic as the researchers from the World Bank.

Dr. Elizabeth Celi recently appeared on an Australian talk show to voice her concerns about how men and masculinity issues are devoid of the same value and respect given to women and femininity issues in modern society.

Watch video here:
Dr. Elizabeth Celi on Men and Masculinity

Dr. Elizabeth Celi on Men and Masculinity

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Taken from J. Soltys's Weblog

Thursday, July 1, 2010

What happens when economically liberated women get picky?

This AFP news article dealing with the issues of men from richer countries marrying (or buying) women from developing countries proves that the difference between the concept of marriage and the business of human (trafficking) are getting more blurry. One of the reason as stated here is due to "economically liberated local women getting picky"

Imported brides rise as money mixes Asian marriages

HONG KONG (AFP) - – Asian men from rich countries such as Japan and South Korea are increasingly seeking brides from poorer ones like Vietnam and the Philippines -- as economically liberated local women get picky.

Marriages between Japanese men and foreign women shot up 73 percent between 1995 and 2006, to 35,993, according to the latest government survey. Most of the women were Filipinas, followed by Chinese.

"Asian brides -- notably Chinese and Filipina -- remain popular in the countryside, where it's quite hard to find young women," said Toshio Esaka, president of dating agency Royal in Osaka, western Japan.
"But nowadays, it's getting harder even downtown as a lot of young Japanese women are economically independent and prefer to remain single," Esaka said.

In South Korea, more than 35 percent of fishermen and farmers who married in the 12 months to May 2009 took foreign brides, mainly from China and Vietnam, government statistics show.

Both examples point to the role of cash and lifestyle in Cupid's quiver -- it is mainly the less marketable men in the richer countries who look abroad for a wife when they can't find one at home.

The story is repeated in Singapore -- Southeast Asia's wealthiest society -- Hong Kong and Taiwan, and often involves marriage brokers.

An online matchmaking site in Singapore, which offers low-cost tours to Vietnam where lower-income men -- who often fear rejection by better-educated local women -- can meet "medically examined and certified virgins".

On the other side of the transaction, the women are usually so impoverished that even poorer men from rich countries offer hope of a better life.

"Due to poverty in their families and because they want to help improve the situation, Cambodian women decide to marry foreigners," said Ya Navuth, director of a Cambodian group which fights human trafficking.

"Some women meet good spouses, but some have been cheated and sold from one 'owner' to another," he said.
This sense of ownership often leads to abuse of foreign brides, rights activists say.
"Many of the cases we are dealing with involve Asian women being abused by their husbands," says Fermi Wong, founder of Hong Kong Unison, which helps ethnic minorities in the city.

"They feel helpless because many of them do not have any relatives in Hong Kong and speak little English or Chinese."

Mainland China, Vietnam and the Philippines provide most of the foreign brides for Hong Kong men.
The potential for exploitation of helpless girls from impoverished families has led some countries -- both importers and exporters of brides -- to put restrictions in place:

-- Mail-order brides from the Philippines were once a common phenomenon but tales of the women being abused by their foreign husbands abroad prompted the government to outlaw the practice.
Despite this, various "marriage broker" agencies get around the law by bringing in foreign men to select their prospective brides before flying off with them.

While it was once mainly Western men who sought Filipina brides, in recent years Japanese and South Korean men have also turned to the archipelago in search of partners.

-- Indonesia is considering a proposal that a 55,000-dollar "security guarantee" should be lodged by foreign men who marry Indonesian women.

If the couple divorce, the wife will be entitled to take the money. If they stick together for at least 10 years, they can claim it as "shared property".
But couples would be able to get around the requirement by marrying abroad.

-- Cambodia in March suspended marriages between South Koreans and its citizens for several weeks and introduced new requirements for the process over concerns about human trafficking.

-- Among "importing" countries, South Korea itself launched a crackdown two years ago on matchmaking agencies which use racial stereotypes or distorted information to help Koreans find foreign brides.
Activists say that because of false advertising some women end up with spouses who have few assets or who are ill, alcoholic or of difficult character.

-- Taiwan also took action, banning commercial international match-making services last year after a series of high-profile criminal cases, including one in which a man was jailed for enslaving and torturing his Vietnamese wife.

More than 434,000 Taiwanese are married to foreigners, usually from China and Southeast Asia, according to the immigration bureau.

While China is mainly an exporter of brides, import demand is expected to soar because of the one-child policy which has contributed to sex-specific abortions and a shortage of girls.

A study by the government-backed Chinese Academy of Social Sciences this year concluded that more than 24 million Chinese men of marrying age could find themselves without women to marry by 2020.

Already, young female refugees from North Korea are increasingly becoming a commodity in China, where they are sold to farmers for up to 1,500 dollars a head, according to a Seoul campaigner.

The human trafficking is not new but has become more prevalent as prices soar amid a shortage of Chinese women in the countryside, said Reverend Chun Ki-Won, head of the Durihana Association, which offers aid to refugees.